Having a roaring sex drive can make life much more fun and enjoyable. When that spark goes away it can feel hard to get it back. The truth is many people gogo through waves and lulls of their sex drive, but regardless of age or experience, it is something that should be innately there.
If you are hoping to find ways to improve your sex drive then know that you are not alone. Keep reading to learn ten techniques you can try to improve your sex drive and your life overall.
Many things go into creating your sex drive, and your hormones are one very important piece of that puzzle.
Testosterone is the main sex hormone in males that is partially responsible for controlling your sex drive as well as producing sperm. If your hormones are out of balance and you have a testosterone deficiency, then testosterone therapy may help boost your sex drive.
Testosterone levels begin to slowly decrease with age and can lead to a deficiency if the levels drop too low. After a test to determine your testosterone levels, your doctor may prescribe you testosterone. Testosterone injections may also help by boosting your mood and energy, as well as muscle growth and strength.
Human growth hormone is another hormone that affects libido. Human growth hormone is a hormone created in the brain by the pituitary gland and is primarily responsible for maintaining proper growth and development of the body. It also does play a role in desire for sexual activity, and similarly to testosterone, the levels begin to decrease naturally with age. If these hormone levels get too low it can cause a deficiency and lead to problems like obesity in the midsection, low sex drive, loss of muscle mass, and a mental health or mood challenges.
If you are found to have low libido paired with a human growth hormone deficiency, then HGH therapy may come with an increased sex drive as levels return to normal.
Who knew something as simple as exercise could boost your sex drive? Physical fitness can truly help to boost that male libido, and you don’t have to be a fitness buff or gym rat to get the results. Even small amounts of exercise can result in a better sex drive.
So, take the time to go for a quick walk or jog, hit the gym for a little while, or better yet play a heart-pumping game like volleyball or tennis with your partner.
Exercise can also help to play a role in self-concept, or how you perceive yourself, meaning exercise has a psychological and physical aspect of helping to support sexual satisfaction, too, as you feel more confident in a fit physique.
Stress is another sex drive killer. Stress can have so many negative implications on your body and your mind, and sex drive is just part of the collateral damage.
To mitigate the effects you will have to address the stress. You can do this in a couple of ways.
If you know what your source of stress is and it is something that you can control, you can take the necessary steps to eliminate it.
Sometimes stress is not as simple and comes from many different directions. In a case like this, you will need to use techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, yoga, exercise, or reading to help keep stress and anxiety at bay, and hopefully release your sex drive.
Spice It Up
After doing the same positions and wearing the same outfits year after year, intimacy can get old and less exciting. It can be a little nerve-wracking to adventure in sex, but the fun part is that you and your partner are trying something new together.
Trying something new together is part of what can bond you, regardless if you think it will be your new favorite thing or just a one-time experience. Spicing it up will look different for everyone but some ideas could be to try a new position, play with the senses with a blindfold, trying restraints, or using a new toy.
Spicing it up can help to get you revved up again by seeing you and your partner in a new scenario.
Stop Smoking and Drinking
Certain lifestyle choices could be putting a damper on the mood and sex drive. Smoking tobacco and drinking alcohol can both play a role in decreasing sex drive. Smoking can play a role in the blood flow to your genitals which can reduce performance and your state of arousal.
Alcohol on the other hand can have a similar effect in that it can lower your sex drive over time. Even one night out of drinking can lower your desire and make it more difficult to achieve an erection, nevertheless an orgasm.
So, if you are planning to have a romantic night with your partner, maybe skip the heavy drinking and smoking and swap it with an aphrodisiac like chocolate instead.
Talk With Your Partner
Conflicts between you and your partner can actually get in between you and your sex drive. These conflicts can reduce your trust, your attraction to your partner, and even your own self-esteem.
The easy thing to do would be to just ignore the problem, but if you want to solve it and amplify your sex drive, having a simple conversation might do the trick. Invite your partner to talk through how you have been feeling and listen actively to their thoughts and concerns as well.
Just getting things off your chest may be all you need, or you might need to create an action plan together about how you can work together moving forward. The bottom line is having a meaningful conversation to help you understand each other might be what you need to put your sex drive from park to drive.
Schedule Sexy Time
One of the most common reasons for the lack of sex in a relationship is that you just get too busy. Time for sex can be put last on the totem pole of importance, but the truth is it should be somewhere near the top.
Sex is one way that you can feel emotionally connected with your partner and sometimes that is just what you need to work together and make it through the other hectic things of life. That being said, as unsexy as it may seem, you can schedule your sexy time into your week.
Doing this will give you something to look forward to and can even enhance the mood. It will also prevent you from making excuses and putting sexy time on the back burner again.
Take Care of Yourself
When you are not feeling great about yourself is a time that your sex drive can become diminished. Having a poor body image can make you feel undesirable or self-conscious when having sex. Feeling this way can hurt your sex drive in a subconscious way of trying to protect yourself.
If you recognize that you are struggling with body image issues you should try to spend some extra time focusing on yourself. This could be doing your favorite activity to relax, going to work out, getting a haircut, or anything else that makes you feel like the best version of yourself.
Taking care of yourself can be a long process and something that should be ongoing. But, over time you will begin to gain your self-confidence and hopefully boost your sex drive at the same time.
Get Some Extra Sleep
Sleep habits may not seem sexy but it really can make the difference when you slip between the sheets. Having enough and good quality of sleep is vital in ensuring your body has enough time to rest and recuperate from the stresses of life.
A lack of quality sleep is associated with reduced sex drive and arousal.
To curb this issue try improving your sleep hygiene and getting about 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night. To ensure you are getting good quality sleep make sure the room is dark, create a sleep routine (like taking your medication and supplements or doing a skincare routine), set the mood for sleep an hour before you go to sleep, turn off electronics at least an hour before you sleep, and make sure you have a comfortable sleeping space.
Sex drive is a complicated topic and is not something that can be fixed in a matter of minutes. It can take some planning and effort but once it’s back it is totally worth it. Be patient with yourself if you do not have the roaring sex drive that you once did out of the gates.
Try different things and even try multiple at the same time. Sex drive is multifaceted and you just have to find the right mixture to get yourself into that space again. If after trying without success, reach out to your healthcare provider to see if there is something they can do to help.
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